Valentines Day is right around the corner so stores and greeting card aisles are filled with red hearts, boxes of heart shaped chocolates and the word LOVE everywhere. But oftentimes, in our culture today, sex and love are confused with one another. Are sex and love the same thing? Far from it! But it’s easy to get the two mixed up, especially when you’ve met that perfect girl or guy. Here are some things they might say to you; be sure to look for the subtle differences between someone who’s looking for sex and someone who truly loves and values you.
“It’s so great, I want it now” doesn’t mean “You’re so great, I’ll wait for you.”
They don’t want you, they want what you can give them. True love is willing to wait to have sex until the appropriate time: marriage. Waiting is tough! But it’s possible, and if your partner is willing to wait, it shows how much they value you.
“I want you” doesn’t mean “I want the best for you.”
If they truly love you, they’ll want what’s best for you. And if you’re not married, that means waiting to have sex until you are married. If they are willing to wait, it means he or she is looking out for your best interests, no matter how hard waiting is.
“Let’s make love” doesn’t mean “I love you. I’ll commit to you a lifetime.”
The physical act of love doesn’t mean your partner loves you, just that they love how you make them feel. Want to know if they really love you? Ask if they’re willing to wait for sex until your wedding night. If they aren’t or they say they aren’t interested in marrying you, then they don’t really love you.
“You’re beautiful (or handsome or sexy)” doesn’t mean”I love you for your inner beauty.”
Don’t get us wrong–you should think your boyfriend or girlfriend is attractive, and they should be attracted to you. But, if they value both your physical attractiveness and your inner beauty, they’ll be willing to wait.
“I need you” isn’t the same as “When you need me, I’ll be there for you.”
We all want to be needed, so this one is especially hard to not give in to. When you’re looking for the right person to commit to, though, you want someone who will be there for you no matter what. Just because they think they need your body doesn’t mean they’ll be there for you when you need them.
Sex and love look a lot alike, but they aren’t the same. It’s important to learn the subtle differences and to look for a partner who loves you and values you instead of someone who just wants physical pleasure.