Around one-fifth of pregnancies are unwanted, according to the Guttmacher Institute. That’s five of the other girls in your twenty-person yoga class. If you discover that you, too, have an unexpected or unwanted pregnancy, the emotions are overwhelming. Can I still go to school and have this baby? Can I still get a good job? How will I support the baby if my boyfriend leaves me? What will my boyfriend think? What will my parents think?
Before you make a decision about your pregnancy, take a few days to do these three things.
- Visit a pregnancy center.
Almost every city has a pregnancy center or two. Take a minute to find one in your town, give them a call, and set up a time to visit. Pregnancy centers can provide materials that will help you make your decision. Once you visit, ask about a pregnancy test or a free ultrasound. Pregnancy centers can also provide knowledgeable counselors who can help you in the decision-making process, and some pregnancy centers will have the resources to help your boyfriend if he is struggling with the unexpected pregnancy as well.
- Talk to a trusted family member or friend.
The decision you make will affect more people than just you. While you will be the one carrying the baby, other people who will be affected are your partner, possibly your parents, and any other children you may already have. Talk to one or two trusted individuals and ask for their advice on the matter. If you’re afraid that your family won’t be open to listening or that your boyfriend will lose his temper, counselors at your local pregnancy center are available to help. Don’t make any decision based on emotion or on what your boyfriend, parents, or friends may think of you.
- Take your time.
Take a few minutes to breathe and calm down. A decision needs to be made soon, but it doesn’t need to be made the same day you find out you’re pregnant. Take time to research the facts, to talk to a trusted individual, and to think on your own before you decide.
Finding out you’re pregnant can be difficult if the pregnancy is unwanted or unexpected. Before you choose what to do about your pregnancy, take your time to make a well-informed decision.
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